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Break Free From Every Abuse, Healing Manual
- Abuse and the law
- Sex Abuse
- Human Sex Trafficking
- Domestic violence
- Elder Abuse
- Effects of abuse
- Why people commit crimes
- Healing is for everyone
- Getting to healing and wholeness
- Healing and miracles
- Know the father’s love for you
- Prayer essentials
- God’s promises
- Receive your healing
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* Give you tools to overcome our enemy’s attacks
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Abused No More is a wonderful book of hope, inspiration and empowerment for all who have experienced the devastation of abuse. Within its pages are empowering statements and beautiful promises from God’s mouth to your ear–promises that uplift, heal wounded souls and bring hope for the future. Used on a daily basis, this book reminds us of the power that lies within and works to restore self-esteem, self-confidence and purpose. Each promise helps the reader know the extraordinary love God has for us. He has promised to strengthen, guide and protect us. Will you accept His love?
This book should be in the hands of every victim of abuse. It will inspire you to blossom into the beautiful person that you are.
The film Two Weeks starring Sally Field as the mother (Anita), of four children was based on the personal experience of writer-director Steve Stockman. The film covers the two week period surrounding Anita’s death. At her request each of the four children, Matthew (Glenn Howerton), Keith (Ben Chaplin) Barry (Thomas Cavanagh) and Emily (Julianne Nicholson) leave jobs and family to return to the family home in North Carolina to be with their dying mother, not knowing how long that will be.
I cringed watching the film as Anita controlled the division of her earthly possessions she called “heirlooms” while still alive, and then gain after her death with the letter she wrote, “to be opened after” which detailed more property divisions.
I was conflicted about her request that her children come be with her while she lay dying and wait there until it happened. On one hand it may be a time that family needs to be together for support of each other and to bear each other up during a time of great stress; but, on the other hand I felt it was too much to ask of her children—to put them through all of that. I mean who really wants to have your mother’s stuff divvied up while she is still living and try to feel good about taking it. In addition, the stress of watching your mother deteriorate before your eyes, knowing she is dying but not really knowing when—having to put your own life on hold for an indefinite amount of time, was in my opinion, selfish and controlling to the nth degree.
Anita thoughtlessly gave things away that he would obviously still use after she was gone. At one point he asks “what am I going to do for a table?” A legitimate question—one that should not have had to be asked.
Summary: Some people control us in life and continue to do so from the grave. This movie depicts another form of subtle abuse—control. Wouldn’t it have been kinder and more loving for Anita to ask her children to come to her bedside to say goodbye, then release them to their lives and not hold them captive until she breathed her last breath? Wouldn’t it have been more thoughtful and considerate to all parties to give each child something special and let it at that? Can you imagine the havoc and strain those two weeks played on the children and Anita’s husband watching her every moment, trying to cope with loss and grief while at the same time making preparations for death? I believe it was cruel for her to ask her loved ones to sit endlessly at her bedside, waiting…
The children and her husband selflessly did as she requested despite their personal cost. That seems to be what the abused do—they make excuses for another’s behavior and they accept it as okay. I wonder what would have happened if the husband or children would have been more assertive and had set some boundaries for themselves. I wonder…
By Herma Silverstein (Author)
Abusive relationships may feature physical violence, from slaps to rape and murder; verbal abuse, including persistent belittling; such emotional tactics as unpredictability and the silent treatment; and other harassment–threats or stalking. Addressing victims, Silverstein surveys the causes of these behaviors in family patterns and the abusers’ need to compensate for perceived inadequacies and offers victims firm advice on extricating themselves–and avoiding more such relationships–by being clear and consistent about what’s acceptable. Though she doesn’t differentiate between occasional and habitual offensive behavior, and her assertion that “Any forced sexual activity is rape, from kissing to intercourse” is extreme, her simple (and somewhat repetitious) exposition will help teenagers clarify the subject, while her insistence that victims are not to blame should give them courage. A chapter detailing specifically what is likely to happen when a rape is reported–with police, at the emergency room, with the legal system–is especially useful. National and state-by-state list of rape prevention and treatment resources, and of victim assistance programs; index. (Nonfiction. 12+)
Hold Me Close, Let Me Go
A memoir by Adair Lara
Analysis by Linda Irene
Summary: This is a story of teenage rebellion and addiction, and a mother’s attempts to help her despite fighting her own demons and limitations. The story takes you through five years of rebellion, a mother’s denial, her allowance of her sixteen- year-old daughter having a live-in lover, her insistence of abortion when she got pregnant, and birth control implants, so that nothing would interfere with her daughter’s education. It’s also a story about the dynamics between mother and daughter, a mother’s bad choices and unsuccessful attempts to reach her daughter, including sending her to live with relatives at sixteen and the daughter’s feeling of being unloved resulting in her acting out. Ultimately, things settle down, Morgan completes high school and graduates with a degree in philosophy from the University of California, Santa Cruz.
Reviews: “Lara’s memoir is in equal parts disturbing and absorbing, primarily because of her ability to acknowledge—and ultimately accept responsibility for—her initial eagerness to deny that her daughter’s life was going awry. Her yarn is told from the heart.” –New York Newsday.
“Her story of her struggle, the mistakes, the triumphs, the abiding love and pure anguish to save her brilliant and self-destructive daughter is a must read for anyone who loves a child, or ever hopes to love a child. Not every child will follow Morgan’s stormy passage to redemption, but many will, and for any parent, Lara’s book will be a beacon.”
–Jacqueline Mitchard, author of The Deep End of the Ocean
“An honest, moving account of family life gone haywire.” –Kirkus Reviews
About the Author:
Lara is an award-winning newspaper columnist and author of a dozen books. She has had articles and essays published in Redbook, Ladies’ Home Journal, Parenting, Good Housekeeping, Reader’s Digest and others. She lives in San Francisco.
She has won a wide range of awards including:
*1990: Associated Press, Best Columnist in California.
*1997: Humor Columns for Newspapers over 100,000, National Society of Newspaper Columnists
*1998: First place, general interest columns, National Society of Newspaper Columnists.
*1999: Second place, commentary, American Association of Sunday and Feature editors contest, competing against papers with circulation over 300,000.
*May 17, 2002 was declared Adair Lara Day in San Francisco by proclamation of Mayor Willie Brown
Adair’s Turning Point: Al-Anon meetings and Dean, an Al-Anon leader, helped Adair become a better mother, make better decisions and become the pillar Morgan so needed. “Dean had explained to me that when parents change the teens change in response to the parents changing.”
The therapeutic potential is that applying the principles of tough love, when everything inside you wants to give in to the addict’s manipulations and threats, only then is there hope to making necessary, life-saving, positive and lasting changes.
“We want you to stay in the program, honey. If you miss another meeting, then you have to find another place to live.” (217)
“I don’t think it could have felt worse if those in the program had handed me a belt and asked me to beat her with it.” (217)
“Everything had changed: instead of walking on eggs, trying to keep her from exercising the unspoken threat-running away-I had seized power. Living at home had become not a sentence, but a privilege.” (217)
Adair writes from personal experience as a mother —what worked and what did not work to help her daughter. She speaks frankly about her own demons and limitations. Her credibility came from her honesty about herself, her family, and their connection to and what they learned from AA and Al-Anon.
This book could have a wide range of audience from parents of addicts, to family members and the curious.